tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4817946407980634773.post6332644967819878886..comments2014-06-24T08:56:01.001-06:00Comments on Let's Save Our Hallmark Moment: JFF = Just Friends ForeverXanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18157437813236475942noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4817946407980634773.post-14261052012092874332007-10-27T13:03:00.000-06:002007-10-27T13:03:00.000-06:00Hear, hear to what Petra and SC say. It's hard, b...Hear, hear to what Petra and SC say. It's hard, but you can do it--after some time apart. My last ex tried to act like my best friend starting the next week after we broke it off. Let me tell you how well THAT worked (ha!)<BR/><BR/>Of course, I also have the magical magnetic power of being the pre-future eternal companion girlfriend. They date me and then they marry the next one.<BR/><BR/>Oddly enough, it's actually easier (for me, anyway) once they get married. They either fall out of my life or I like their wives and so I keep in touch . . .Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07232286196928844543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4817946407980634773.post-9390385137160193262007-10-22T23:29:00.000-06:002007-10-22T23:29:00.000-06:00With my two it hasn't yet worked for me. One we re...With my two it hasn't yet worked for me. One we read each others blogs but that's about it. Nothing more then that. I'd like to think it's possible but haven't been able to see it work yet.Thirdmangohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12144315741226432002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4817946407980634773.post-14578064941206071762007-10-22T23:22:00.000-06:002007-10-22T23:22:00.000-06:00Whole heartedly agree. It took me about 3 months ...Whole heartedly agree. It took me about 3 months of finally putting distance between him and I to get to the "I'm his friend" stage. I think part of me purposely didn't see him the last time I was home, to give myself just that much more time. We have plans to hang out when I come home for Thanksgiving, but my roommate is going home with me, so I'll ease my way back into seeing him. :) I have to say though, I really do believe that you can be just friends post break up. Everyone just has to find their own way to it.Xanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18157437813236475942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4817946407980634773.post-4215075966055213372007-10-22T23:02:00.000-06:002007-10-22T23:02:00.000-06:00I agree with petra (I'm another BBer by the way)I'...I agree with petra (I'm another BBer by the way)<BR/><BR/>I've found JFF works only after you've had a quality six months apart. It can still hurt, but it's doable. Consequently, I employ the "just friends at two arms length rule" with people I think merit continued contact.<BR/><BR/>In the end, I think advice gets you no where. We trust no one but ourselves when it comes to relationships, and I guess that's okay. Some lessons can only be learned the hard way.Saule Cogneurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06539979684286065456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4817946407980634773.post-20179550587915821772007-10-21T01:46:00.000-06:002007-10-21T01:46:00.000-06:00Um, so I broke up with my first love TWO WHOLE YEA...Um, so I broke up with my first love TWO WHOLE YEARS ago and have dated TWO WHOLE GUYS in between (I'll be generous and give them whole-personhood, for the sake of rhetoric) and it still hurts a little bit to hear that said first love (who you know, and you can feel free to laugh your head off) is dating someone else. <BR/><BR/>But I think "just friends" is possible, if you want it, just really difficult. (You-know-who and I had to take some time entirely apart, without even email communication, before we could ease back into being just friends.) (Yes, I dated Voldemort. What of it?) But I have faith in you that you can do it if you want!<BR/><BR/>(Oh, and also, I sympathize greatly.)Petrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15454911336796743360noreply@blogger.com